Deprogramming Home
No Place is Perfect
So, you’ve become aware of the toxic world we live in that is poisoning us…. but your home still reinforces your old beliefs…. what do you do?
When it comes to home and health, you’ve got to realize that the toxicity of the world is always lurking.
This doesn’t mean adding to the fear and it doesn’t mean exhausting yourself more trying to make everything perfect.
It does mean opportunity for continuous improvements in your space to improve your life.
When I work with a client, we don’t just implement feng shui, we look at the whole picture. It’s coaching, but including the environment.
No home or location is absolutely perfect, no matter how old or new, and you don’t want that either. The attempts at sterilizing beauty in our world, cutting costs to gain more profit, the dying art of skilled workers, and the distracted behaviors has created homes that look sad, boring, empty.
I renovated the storage area over my garage and turned it into a studio. I remember finding out the corners being cut by the contractor were so terrible, uncaring, no pride in the work, no integrity. Thankfully another installer notified me of what was happening before walls were closed up. I’m not playing the victim card, but I was the one left holding the bag and those contractors took my money and ran. I learned from my attorney that the system favors the contractors even if they steal-lie-cause harm-scam.
It took me a while to work through the energetics of that and gain a personal lesson, to take responsibility for what happened even if it wasn’t my fault, and move on.
The point is, all homes have issues and are communicating to us in ways that can help us strengthen our resilience, deepen our awareness, and shift our mindsets.
When we de-program our mind…. unlearn…. but we don’t change how we live in our homes, we open ourselves up to falling back into patterns we’re working to move away from.
For example,
You stopped watching TV, but you keep the TV visible. This means it’s always tempting you to return to its “programming” when it’d be easier to go all in and get rid of it, or at least hide it in a cabinet and only use it for special occasion movie nights or things like that. I know some people won’t even watch a movie and that’s ok, but some people like an occasional documentary or film. I have not watched tv in so long that I can’t remember how many years it has been, but I do have an old TV inside a cabinet and a few times a year, when I have a certain guest in town, we will pop some (NOT microwaved) popcorn and enjoy a good movie (probably an OLD movie).
When we de-program from the toxicity of the world, we have to take stock of what is still taking up room in our homes that is feeding the unhealthy, negative ways of the world that we’re trying to leave behind.
This means:
- Examining brands and art on display
- Shifting to healthier products WHEN we’re able to or need to change something, such as washable rugs instead of synthetic ones that collect gunk, an ethernet cord for the computer instead of Wi-Fi, shopping at the farmer’s market instead of the grocery store.
- Looking at old habits being reinforced like Televisions, unfiltered water, or microwaves
- Looking at product switches, want to use candles, switch to beeswax, want to clean, switch to natural products like hypochlorous acid products, want to uplift, use high quality essential oils safely without overdoing it…etc.
- Building materials: Whether building or making improvements, it’s not always possible to do the more natural option, just do the best you can with what you can when you can and leave the rest…to rest.
- Home location, is it time for a change? Are you drowning in EMFs…or noise…or commute time…or HOA headaches?
No home is perfect means we get to become more aware and intentional with how we move behind the walls that support us.
It’s a balance between worrying about things to the point the mitigation becomes useless, even harmful itself, AND making changes to circumvent the continuous attacks on humanity from all fronts (environment, mind, body, spirit).
I live in a home where nothing is level, I call it my Angela in Wonderland adventure. Sometimes when I see the crooked door frame it drives me mad, other times it brings a smile to my face because it reminds me that our quirks and imperfections give us character, insight, and are the signs of a well lived life.
For years, I used to live in a 2500 SF townhouse in the city, it was nice, new, and I had no outer maintenance responsibilities. Now, I, intentionally, live in an old 1300 SF farmhouse in the country that needed a lot of work to be livable, has had a lot of issues, and has more outside to take care of than any one person could ever complete.
But, I’ve learned more about my practice of Feng Shui and connecting with the land than I ever could have imagined. This house has gifted me numerous challenges, helping me to gain great clarity on the aspects that are useful for creating results and the things that are not worth worrying about.
I’ve developed a greater sense of ease with the undone-unknown-unfinished-unlearning and how it truly is a process, not a point of arrival. The wisdom I’ve gained from taking a huge leap into the unknown in my own life, has left me a lot of time to contemplate in quietness or under frog-croaking starlight nights, where home becomes a revelation, its own state of being.
Whatever or wherever you call home, is a very overlooked relationship that is so important to the greater task of knowing thyself…really knowing.
For me the solitude and quiet of living alone and away from the city has been one of the hardest, yet most nourishing and soul fulfilling decisions, of my life. Even as I write this, the sun is shining on the morning dew and the leaves are twinkling…. the windows are open and the crisp air invites in a breeze…the beauty of nature is not far away but right out the door.
When we de-program from the world, we must understand that our homes are not separate from this process, but integral to it. It’s the most underestimated and ignored relationship, yet the most influential because, not only are we influenced by those with which we spend the most time, but also by our surroundings.
To live more consciously is not to wake up one day and find yourself in a bubble of protection where nothing can harm you, but to be so certain with your own convictions, and at peace, that you can live fully inside the outer chaos-imperfection-challenges.
Your home is a gateway that is an integral part of your path, wherever you’ve been, wherever you are, and wherever you are going, it’s not just a building, it’s a relationship.
Angela
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am@angelamorris.com